If there’s one place I hate going to, it’s the grocery store. Every time I’m there, I just want to get in and out as quickly as possible. Early in my marriage, I ran into a lot of problems at the grocery store. My wife would tell me to get four or five items. I’d commit them to memory and be on my way. However I always forgot something or came back with the wrong brand. It was a disaster. Eventually, I asked myself, “Why do I keep messing up?” But messing up a grocery list is small. Sometimes we can mess up bigger things. So again, we think, “Why do I keep messing up?” Here are some reasons.
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I took a test once. One of the exercises had a bunch of small circles, but the circles had no letters in them. The goal was to put a dot in the center of as many circles as possible in one minute. I went fast, but made a ton of mistakes and got worse over time as my focus wavered(动摇). Cleaning up our mistakes takes intentional care. We need to slow down, process what we’re doing, and make sure we’re doing the right thing.
2. We don’t make changes.
I told three different sets of people a joke I thought was funny. Not a single laugh in all three groups. My wife couldn’t believe I told it the first time. Why did it take me three awkward experiences to finally abandon the joke? If we want to stop messing up, we have to change the way we do things. We can’t expect a different result if we keep carrying out the same strategies, taking the same approaches, or saying similar things.
3. We really don’t want to change.
Maybe the reason we don’t make any changes is because deep down, we don’t want to change. We are either filled with too much pride, thinking others should be different, or we’re fearful of moving forward in new ways. You are the constant in your recurring(反复出现的) problems. If it’s not working, do something different. Taking a risk on something new is better than failing over and over the old way.
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