Ten years ago, my daughter came home from school and told me some classmates made fun of her. I told my nine-year-old daughter that if anyone ever did that to her again, she should beat them. That was really bad advice. What my daughter needed me to teach her was how to deal with uncomfortable feelings. That’s what your daughter needs too. Here are three tools your daughter can use that are better than a beat when someone makes her uncomfortable.

A safe place

If your daughter has an uncomfortable experience with her classmate, she needs to know it’s safe to talk to you about it. You need to communicate to her that she isn’t alone, that she is loved, and that you believe her. This creates a safe place for her to deal with uncomfortable feelings.

You can’t control your daughter’s choice of friends at school. However, you can work to surround her with positive relationships. These can be people who are working to build your daughter up. You can’t completely stay away from people who will make her uncomfortable. But you can encourage her to spend time with people who will encourage her.

Practice

You can encourage your daughter to respond(反应) in these difficult situations by practicing with her. Running through potential(潜在的) situations can make her prepared so she feels like she has tools when she finds herself in a difficult situation and wonders how to deal with uncomfortable feelings. For example, you could ask your daughter to share a time a classmate made her uncomfortable. Then ask, “What could you have done or said in that time to create safety?” It’s important not to make her feel sorry.

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1.How old is the writer’s daughter?

A 9.

B 19.

C 20.

D 24.

解析：选B。B数字计算题。根据第一段的“Ten years ago”和“I told my nine-year-old daughter”可知，十年前，女儿九岁，那么今年女儿十九岁。故选B。

2.What can you say to your daughter when she fights with classmates?

A Give your classmate a hug.

B Say sorry at once.

C I am here with you.

D You made a mistake.

解析：选C。C细节理解题。根据第二段的“You need to communicate to her that she isn’t alone, that she is loved, and that you believe her.”可知，如果你的女儿与别人发生了不愉快，你需要告诉她，她并不孤单，她被爱着，你相信她。故选C。

3.What can be put back into the blank?

A A cute classmate.

B Good daughters.

C Good friends.

D A good school.

解析：选C。C推理判断题。该段主要讲了积极的人际关系对女儿的重要性。故选C。

4.How can you encourage your daughter to respond in these difficult situations ?

A By saying “I love you” to her every night.

B By having a party for her every month.

C By asking her to make more friends at school.

D By going through potential situations.

解析：选D。D细节理解题。根据最后一段的“You can encourage your daughter to respond in these difficult situations by practicing with her.”可知，你可以通过与女儿一起练习(潜在的困难场景)，让她在这些困难的情况下做出反应。故选D。

5.Who does the writer write the passage for?

A Parents.

B Teachers.

C Children.

D Students.

解析：选A。A 推理判断题。通读全文可知，文章中反复出现daughter一词，由此可推断，本篇文章是一位父亲/母亲写给其他父母的建议。故选A。