The behaviors we think show respect and kindness can sometimes have the opposite effect. Different cultures have developed their own rules about what’s considered polite over thousands of years. These rules often differ from one another, creating situations where doing the “right thing” in one place may become the wrong thing somewhere else.

Saying “You’re Welcome” After Thanks

In some cultures, people often say “you’re welcome” when someone thanks them. This sounds polite in places like the United States. But in some other cultures like Britain, the same words can sound like you are expecting praise for a simple act of kindness. Different places have their own ways to reply to thanks.

Arriving Exactly on Time

Being on time is very important in cultures such as Germany, Switzerland, and many in Northern Europe, where lateness may be seen as disrespectful. In other cultures, people have a more relaxed view of time. In those places, arriving exactly on time might be seen as too formal or even impolite.

Finishing All Your Food

In many Western cultures, finishing the food on your plate is a way to show you enjoyed the meal. However, in some Asian cultures, a clean plate could be taken to mean the host did not offer enough food. It’s worth noting that in China today, many people support the “Clean Plate” action to avoid waste. Still, in certain countries, finishing your food may be seen as a sign that you want more.

Giving Even Numbers of Flowers

Bringing flowers is a common gesture in many cultures for hosts or special events. People in places like the United States may give an even number of flowers without a second thought. Yet in several European and Slavic cultures, even numbers of flowers are linked with funerals. Giving an even number could upset your hosts on a happy occasion.